My prayers for today is that our country can come to some consensus on the path forward when it comes to the law and marriage. There are tensions in our society that have the potential to be another Roe v. Wade when it comes to the pending case on the Supreme Court. And just as I am pro-life, I am a traditionalist when it comes to marriage.
I have not written much about same-sex legal pushes, though I have grown up experiencing the shift in attitudes and understandings.
I have not written much because in many ways I wanted to take the time to really evaluate in light of my existing relationships, reflecting on nature of human experience, and coming to some conclusions.
The culture has started a grand experiment. Whether it was destined to be called a civil union or a marriage. For some states the practice has already been in place for a decade.
As a traditionalist I have concerns about the path forward. Due to our overly individualistic society, marriage is one of the only institutions that facilitate permanence and commitment. Remove the biological connection especially when you add children and I think you weaken the institution and generational stability. Not necessarily because gay parents can’t be loving or be a family but because you weaken the design of a family that is biologically connected.
When divorced couples remarry and bring children into the marriage, the child who wants to rebel against their step-mom or dad often says ‘I don’t need to listen to you, you aren’t my parent.’ When you expand out the options for what makes a family you weaken permanence. Not for everyone but for the culture at large. That’s the concern I have about rushing too quickly into a major social change. For many individuals expanding out choices won’t necessarily lead to more responsibility, instead it may lead to lots of confusion.
Marriage is a communal act, one of the few that exist. It brings together the community, it forms biological community, and is understood by the community as a significant goal and end. By expanding out the possibilities of what marriage means you inevitably weaken and change its nature and meaning within broader society.
That’s why I am taking today to pray.
I know my views aren’t necessarily popular, but I think it’s appropriate to sound a note of caution.